tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1450781927507277917.post4870631813826786541..comments2023-05-22T06:48:52.450-07:00Comments on Mis(s)Mannered Mom: Who The Heck Are YOU?Mis(s)Mannered Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18307342287952842057noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1450781927507277917.post-74243064032310123682012-11-28T07:26:13.331-08:002012-11-28T07:26:13.331-08:00I totally agree with you C. I wouldn't change ...I totally agree with you C. I wouldn't change any of the experiences I've lived, yes, including the crappy ones, because they've made me who I am and they've given me an inner fortitude and belief that I can stand on my own two feet and make it no matter the obstacle. I don't know that I'd have that inner reserve had I not had to fight.<br /><br />That said, I need to loosen the grip on that "fight" stance and learn to just "BE." (I'm so Zen now! LOL) That's very difficult for me at times. My mind never shuts down, always working, worrying, riddling, questioning. I need to learn to let go and just let things happen as they will, while still trying to forge my own (new) path.<br /><br />I'm so glad to have met you. Your spirit and humour uplift me all of the time! You're a great cheerleader in my corner! :)Mis(s)Mannered Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18307342287952842057noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1450781927507277917.post-78449458044837059112012-11-28T07:22:10.399-08:002012-11-28T07:22:10.399-08:00I'm there with ya Karen! Elasticized pants for...I'm there with ya Karen! Elasticized pants for the win! I'm so on board with everything you just said. I'm finally at the point where I want to surround myself with people who "get me" and appreciate all of that crazy....then just people who I feel "obligated" to have around me. We are all critical enough of ourselves...why have an entourage that makes us feel even lesser? Mis(s)Mannered Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18307342287952842057noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1450781927507277917.post-22962081099617609632012-11-14T12:29:34.644-08:002012-11-14T12:29:34.644-08:00Journey is the operative word. As we peel back the...Journey is the operative word. As we peel back the "layers", to find out where our authentic selves went, we also see the layers we hold away from the "core" are part of us as well. As we grow, as we go through experiences, this adds to our authentic self. I believe I am a sum of my experiences. I am made up of all these events that shape and mold me, even if I don't like them very much.<br /><br />Walls are built as a reaction. We learn from an unsavoury experience and develop a coping mechanism so we don't have to experience it again. As you said, you don't want to be hurt, or not get caught if you leap. It is hard to take away that self-protection and risk more, expecially as we get older and there is more to risk (children, income level, health, happiness, the list is endless).<br /><br />I applaud you for putting this out there, simply stating it is the first step to peeling back the "layers" to have a poke and find out what you like, what you don't, how you can merge "layers" back into the "core". Even if you leaev some walls intact, you will still be closer to an authentic you, because you understand why the wall is there, and maybe, isntead of removing it, you can build a ladder. <3Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1450781927507277917.post-81989640479196615102012-11-14T07:57:08.229-08:002012-11-14T07:57:08.229-08:00So well articulated - I feel so much of what you h...So well articulated - I feel so much of what you have written. I feel like now that I'm turning 40 I can shed a lot the bs about myself that I don't like, and see who will stick around. i'm also finding that at this point in my life I only really care about what a handful of people think about me, not the 100+"friends" on facebook. I just can't wait to be that rude, I don't give a rats ass 80 year old who wears elasticized pants and crooked lipstick!Greediehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00423857658125208668noreply@blogger.com