Speaking of the Big 4-0

My husband and I were just talking about my birthday and I threw out the comment, "I'm not planning my own birthday!" to which he made the (correct) statement that really, it was better if I DID, since I'm pretty much a control freak and will be disappointed if it's not what I wanted or isn't just "so."

The thing is, I don't really KNOW what I want to do for my 40th birthday. I guess the best idea is to eliminate plans that I know aren't me, such as a trip to Vegas. I know a lot of people would LOVE for that to happen, but it's really not my thang.

I also know I don't want my friends to give me gifts. It's not about that for me, and I think we're all at the age where we buy things for ourselves if we really want or need them. Well, most people do. I'm a bit of a martyr that way, I admit it.

I don't really feel like I want a big "to do" about it, but I don't want to let it go by unmarked in some memorable way, either.

My brother in law literally didn't want any party for his birthday. He made sure my sister was aware of his wishes and they spent his birthday how he wanted-which was low key and with their family. My sister wanted a party at their home with her friends, and she too had the type of party she was looking for, that suited her.

My husband just wanted a low key affair as well, we celebrated as a family and went to a pub with friends.

So, who am I and what do "I" want to do?

I'm not sure yet.

Part of me would like to go away for a long weekend with my husband. I don't mean anywhere crazy necessarily, maybe Boston or Maine or something. On the other hand, I don't like to not include my kids, so I guess that means I'd have to have TWO celebrations. :)

I love my friends, in all my different circles, but what it would look like combining all of those people in one big space-I don't know! It could be quite the party!

I had such an amazing 39th birthday, it really felt perfect. I don't know if going "big" could necessarily top it!

I have 6.5 months to decide, a little less time I guess if there is planning involved that will need to be done ahead of time! I also get to watch some of my friends turn 40 before me, and will be able to see how THEY choose to celebrate!

So, what would you love to do for your 40th birthday? What DID you do that you loved? What would you plan if you could have the "perfect" day?

Please share! All ideas are welcome!