Monday, August 17, 2009

Lucky 13

Today is my 13th wedding anniversary. We've been together for 16 total but only 13 of those years were not what my mother-in-law classifies as "living in sin." That's a long time to be with someone, from my late teens to a family of four.

It's been quite a journey. Since we started out together quite young, we had growing up to do still, and I think we've been doing that together along the way. Then came babies and careers and the years in there when your children are very young seem like a blur. I think those years you are just struggling to keep your head above water and you're just holding on to each day. I remember lots of arguments over responsibilities. We were still trying to get our roles down, and who's job it was to do dinners or baths or bottles or bedtime.

Now, our children are a bit older, and so are we. And I'd say we are learning and growing more now than we have in our whole time together. We've discussed and resolved a lot of the previous issues with in laws and parenting and household roles, and now we're on to the real meaty questions of life and goals and the future-and how we both see it.

It's been a roller coaster adventure of a ride. We've had a lot of ups and downs, a lot of laughter among the tears, and a lot of stumbles, falls and getting back up. The good news is, even when I'm upset or mad, I still look across the table at the man sitting there, and see the one person who knows me better than anyone else and who is still my "choice" when it all comes down to it.

There's something to be said for that.

1 comment:

  1. Happy (belated) Anniversary! Congrats to you both for being excellent role models of a happily married couple. They're hard to come by sometimes but you've got it down pat. You guys really do rock!!!!